Emotionally Confused Children

Emotionally confused children are a big challenge for their parents. It is hard to know where to start, and the parents have to be strong enough to stand up for their kids when they don’t believe in them. Here are some tips to help the parents deal with this kind of behavior in children.

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  • If you feel like your child’s problems are coming from anger or sadness, you should be aware that the problem is not coming from a specific emotion. The child is just trying to express their feelings in the form of verbal behavior, and this is normal.
  • When you see a child having emotional confusion, it may be because they are trying to get attention from you. This can also be a result of not being able to communicate their feelings to anyone else. Try to avoid any direct eye contact with the child, and try not to give in to them.
  • Don’t try to convince your child that he or she is right. They don’t want to hear it. If you do not believe that your child has a problem, then he or she is probably right.
  • Your child may be emotionally confused because he or she does not have a firm grasp on reality. If your child constantly senses that he or she is wrong about something, or that things are happening the wrong way, it may be a sign that he or she is experiencing an emotional crisis.
  • If you have a lot of trouble understanding your child, or trying to get your child to listen to what he or she has to say, it could be because your child is emotionally confused. Help your child to realize that you are not the only person in the world that wants him or her to be in the position that he or she is in emotional crisis. You can help your child to stop his or her emotional crisis by talking with them. Tell them that you understand how they are feeling, and that you care about them. Let them know that you want to help them.
  • If you are unable to help your child stop his or her emotional problems, you should try to take the time to listen to your child’s concerns. They may be expressing concerns that are related to what you have been dealing with.


Oliver James trained and practised as a clinical child psychologist and, since 1988, has worked as a writer, journalist, broadcaster, and television documentary producer and presenter. His books include the best-selling Affluenza, They F*** You Up and Britain on the Couch, which was also a successful documentary series for Channel 4. He is a trustee of the Alzheimer’s charity, SPECAL and lives in Oxfordshire with his wife and two small children.